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On roofs

11 September, 2017

I woke up this morning to more news from the BVI, where it seems like the whole world has more or less fallen to pieces following Hurricane Irma. The news was not good. We learned yesterday that Irma removed the roof on my in-laws’ house like a giant hand had plucked it off and flung it aside. We now know the same fate has befallen the beloved guest house where Kim and I always stayed when we visited — among our favorite places in the world. We don’t have a photo of the guest house, or what’s left of it, yet, but here’s the main house:

Our house at Indigo Point. The entire roof structure including rafters was lifted off by the hurricane and deposited in the lot next door.

It’s important to understand that compared to the permanent residents of the BVI we have nothing to worry about. After all, we still have a roof over our head. It’s also important to understand that the house was under contract for sale. We had already made peace with the idea that it wasn’t going to be ours any more and had planned a now-unnecessary trip down to help organize and remove the things in it that matter to us. Given that, I really have nothing to complain about at all.

And yet…

There is something so symbolic about having the roof ripped off a place that is important to you. It turns out roofs really matter. People will go to great lengths to get under them, and it’s the first or  maybe the second thing we think about when we’re talking about our well being. “A decent meal and a roof over your head.” “It may not be much, but it keeps me out of the rain.” We don’t talk as much about building walls, even though they’re pretty important. Walls divide us; we use them to keep other people and things out, to separate us from them. Roofs bring us together. We “get everyone under one roof.” A house or a shelter of any kind doesn’t amount to anything at all until it has a roof on it, and then suddenly it starts to matter.

Back in the days of the Famine in Ireland, which of course was not a famine at all but a genocide against the poor, when the landlords were trying to run the tenants off their land they sent thugs to pull the roofs off the cottages. Usually they did this at night, during a cold rain (not too hard to find one of those in Ireland). The people thus deprived of the roof over their head died of exposure fairly quickly. There’s less written about the landlords actually demolishing the cottages, although I’m sure that happened as well. It’s the symbolism of the roof that really resonates with us.

So, as you’re reading news about the hurricane and about the people in the Caribbean and elsewhere whose only roof is now floating in a bay somewhere, remember the importance of roofs and what they symbolize.

If you would like to donate to the BVI relief effort, Richard Branson is getting things organized. See his post here.

Filed Under: BVI

Problem Solving Flowsheet

26 April, 2017

This never stops being funny.

Filed Under: Other Stuff, Work

Our wedding anniversary

20 July, 2016

So, facebook just asked me what was on my mind. I wrote approximately the stuff below… and then it crashed when I tried to post it.

*facepalm*

But, let me not be among those who cry over spilt words. Here’s another crack at it, hopefully a bit more permanent.

What’s on my mind, facebook asks?

25 years and a day ago, dinner at Lulu Wellington’s, a Philadelphia restaurant. My mother convinced everyone in the room to light sparklers (provided by her) in the middle of her toast to us. We set off the smoke alarms and the fire department came. It was excellent.

The next day, my beautiful bride, walking across the lawn to me through a crowd of family friends (and a few of our own friends). She looked entirely cool and collected even though the temperature was 104 (40 c). I was bathed in sweat.

The tailcoat I insisted on wearing, despite it being both outdoors and before 6. I said “I’m only getting married once and I am getting married in a tailcoat.” Weirdly I was right, without knowing why.

My dear old dad, who was wearing navy blue socks with his tux. I honestly don’t think he could see the difference. He prevailed upon a whole bunch of our guests to give us cash as a wedding gift so I could buy a vibraphone for $4000. Appropriate? Not really, but it was life changing anyway. Dad did not stand on ceremony.

My mother, who looked happy and bemused the whole time, and her best friend from college Lynn who turned up at the last minute. Also Kim’s mom Carol who looked fantastic, like a proud peacock despite the heat.

Mom’s sister — my aunt — Liz, who dragged herself all the way up from Atlanta in that godawful heat for what reason I do not know except she wanted to support me. I am so grateful she was there.

My brother, my best friend, who arranged the most beautiful song for us and then sang it with my fabulous sister. He was determined to recite the silly Shakespeare sonnet I asked him to recite from memory, and of course he froze in the middle and had to rescue himself with the wedding program that Kim insisted he keep in his pocket just in case. Then rallied and gave the best wedding toast ever.

Our friends, who played the music, gave us our co-bachelor party, and showed up.

Ron and Claire, Kim’s father and stepmother, who made everything happen and made it seem easy. I knew when I first met Ron that we were going to be good friends. I did not know that he would be, after my brother, my closest friend in the world.

And after all that, what’s on my mind? The one I married. Happy anniversary, my only love — here’s to another 25 years.

Filed Under: Other Stuff

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